The blueprint for your adult relationships was largely written before you were seven, in a developmentally hypnotic state that recorded everything. Understanding this intellectually isn't enough to change it — the rewrite has to happen in the same subconscious layer the original was encoded in. You meet someone new. You like them. They like you back. And before the third date, almost without meaning to, you have started to behave like someone you don't quite recognise. You are anxious, or distant, or performing, or pre-rejecting them in your head. You catch yourself in a reaction and think: where did that come from? You did not invent it. You have been doing it your whole adult life. And if you trace the thread back, you arrive — sooner than you would like — at the kitchen of the house you grew up in. The blueprint was drawn before you were seven The relationship you have with your a